Kyle Davison Bair
2 min readJan 30, 2025

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Hello Joseph, thanks for responding.

It's a good question. You asked: "I do have one question for you to consider, but I do not need a response. It is simple, if you are a father. "Would you ever choose to kill or destroy the child you claim to love for anything they've done and banish them to eternal torment?" If the answer is yes, my opinion is you don't have unconditional love for your child."

No, I wouldn't, and neither does God.

I'm certain you're asking this, because you think I believe that God does banish children He loves to eternal torment.

But that's not what the Bible teaches.

God isn't the one sending us to eternal torment.

God is the One SAVING US from eternal torment.

Who sends us to eternal torment? We do. We send ourselves.

That's why the Bible speaks of us "storing up wrath against ourselves" every time we sin.

That's why, when Isaiah goes into the presence of God, he is in absolute agony -- not from God's torture, but from his own sin. God isn't touching him or harming him in any way. Isaiah only enters eternity briefly, yet his sin causes him intense, crippling pain and agony, until those sins are forgiven and atoned for.

We send ourselves to hell.

We create the agony we suffer by our own sins.

God is the One who wants to rescue us from this.

So let's turn your question around.

As a father, would I ever choose to rescue my child from the pain they are causing for themselves? Yes, absolutely. That's what a good parent does. You offer them every way out you can. You make salvation easy, instead of laborious.

But your child is still their own person. They still get to make their own choices. Some might choose to spurn your help, to ignore your salvation from their pain, and keep diving back into it.

As a parent, it absolutely breaks your heart to see it. It breaks God's heart, too. This is why the Scriptures say that God does not want anyone to perish, but all to come to salvation.

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Kyle Davison Bair
Kyle Davison Bair

Written by Kyle Davison Bair

Every honest question leads to God — as long as you follow it all the way to the answer. New books and articles published regularly at pastorkyle.substack.com

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